On Sat Sep 16 14:49:50 2006, the following inquiry was submitted to "Questions contact us" on womens-words.com: by Lynda
A open question for Your Comments
Dear Womens Words:
I am in the process of beginning a book called Walking On Eggshells-Abuse
Trauma And The Intuitive Connection. I am hoping that women who use your
web-site might be interested in sharing their stories of surviving abusive
relationships.
Looking back over the years I have realised that the development of my own
intuition which is very strong, has grown through the abuse I suffered growing
up. I began to wonder if there were others like me who had gone through
similar experiences, what many call-walking on eggshells.
If there are women out there who would be interested in sharing their stories,
please pass along that it is not necessary to give a name. Through sharing our
stories I truly believe we can help each other heal.
Yours truly
Lynda
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On Sat May 07 03:28:43 2005, the following comments were submitted to womens words by Evelyn.
On Books
Reading a previous article on this page brought back my childhood, a time of war, of people unsure of their present and their future. But somehow, the books I recieved were different from the rest (or so it seems by reading that article). My gifts were of Treasure Island, collected short stories of the Brothers Grimm. The Water Babies by Charles Kingsley (does anyone read that any more?) and many more 'classical' childrens
books. Dad's influence. He was the reader, the intellectual one. Mum was the newspaper and gossip reader.
Those books gave me a good grounding and began my thirst for books now. Not that I am really that 'into'classical books although now I have added Oliver Twist, A Christmas Carol. A Tale of Two Cities etc. and various Shakespeare to my 'classical' repetoire.
I have read lots of different books in my life (more so in later years) but mostly sci-fi (where did that come from?), but always books, books, books. A propitious start to any child's life is the gilft of books (at a time when they might have been scarce). Harry Potter is great but there should be more books bought for children (get them off the Game Boys and X Boxes etc.)
Am I and others like me just lucky in their chosen parents? I wonder. Keep reading everyone.
Evelyn
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On Wed May 25 04:57:15 2005, the following comment was submitted to womens words by Jasmine
A open question for Your Comments
Why is it OK for men to show off strutting about half naked but women to be treated as shameful for breastfeeding in public?
Jasmine
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Comment re: Jasmine's question On Wed May 25
Hi Jasmine, it's not ok and these throw backs to the stone age should be treated with the contempt they deserve. For some reason there are still a few neanderthals roaming around. Hopefully they will die out as obsolete soon in the same way dinosaur's did. Until that happy day we just have to feel sorry for their mothers.
Luv Carol ;-) ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
On Wed May 25 15:21:35 2005, the following question was submitted to womens words by Becky
A open question for Your Comments
I just found a site on the net that had my husbands profile on it. I looked at the profile and saw that he had put in there that he was married but is now single. When he had posted this profile, we had only been married 7 months. When I saw this I got all the answers for everything, like why he did not want to make love any more, why he stays up all night, why he never talk to me and when I do get him to talk it turns in to a fight/argument.
Now I am faced with one question why and all I get is "I don’t know". But then he answers everything with "I don’t know". We have a 4 month old son; he was just under 1 month when my husband posted his profile.
I feel like he treats me like crap. I keep telling him I am unhappy he seems to let it go in one ear and out the other. I can never get him to just sit and cuddle with me.
I tell him that thing need to change and they do for a few days, then go back to him ignoring me. I will ask him a question like, what do you want for dinner or something like that and I get "you’re bothering me”. I feel as though nothing I do is good enough for him.
I am a stay home wife/mother; all I do all day is clean and take care of our son. I rarely get the chance to check my e-mail. My husband works just about every day and he comes home and jumps on the computer after work.
I am basically a single parent with out the financial part. My husband takes care of our son financially & that’s it. I have to fight with him to even change a diaper, I do every thing and he acts as though it no big deal.
I yell at him to try to get him to harm me sometimes and all I get is "your blowing this out of proportion" or “why are you yelling at me I did nothing wrong”. Now my question is am I or my son, being emotionally abused by my husband?
Becky ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Comment re: Becky's question On Wed May 25
Hi Becky,Carol here, from what you've explained it does sound like emotional abuse to me. However, as you say your baby was only 1 month old when he posted that profile, your husband could be suffering from new dad jitters.
You know yourself how hard it is becoming a new mother with all the worries of a new little person you're responsible for. Well, some dads get overwhelmed by it all too.
Posting that profile could have been nothing more than mentally opting out of what was a very real fear that he was not sure he was up to shouldering all the new responsibilities. I suspect he was just getting used to his role as your husband, then all of a sudden he's a dad too.
His refusal to talk about stuff is a man thing, if he feels inadequate and he can't fix why he feels this way, then like most men he goes into himself while he tries to work it out.
When women are troubled with a problem they mostly just need to talk about it. But for some reason known only to them, men need to fix a problem and when they can't they brood about it.
If you can't get him to talk about what's wrong then I suggest you look for support through some form of counselling. If you can get him to go with you all the better. Let him know how unhappy you are in a calm and positive way. If you can't do it face to face without having a big row then write him a letter.
It might seem silly writing to him when you're in the same home but I've known it to work for lots of couples.
Good luck Becky and let us know how you get on.
PS: There is a very good book called Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus. It's all about the difference in how men and women think and cope with problems. I recommend it very highly. ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
On Mon Nov 21 2005, the following message was submitted to womens words by Frances
An open message for Your Information
I work part time for the Women's Resource Centre which has a good web site which could be useful to your readers.
It contains a lot of information about women's organisations and events, training and jobs, mainly in London.
www.wrc.org.uk
Tel 0207 324 3030
Thanks
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